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How my Situationship Revealed my Attachment Issues | A guest post

Have you ever hooked up with someone and thought to yourself, "I am DEFINITELY not falling for this person! They're not even my type!"

Yeah, well, that's what happened to me. I fell hard for my "situationship," and they broke my heart.

But within that heartbreak, I unwittingly embarked on a journey of self-discovery as my own attachment issues came to light despite all my effort to hide from them.

In the pursuit of validity and orgasms, my situationship ultimately acted like a mirror, forcing me to confront the deep-seated attachment issues that had silently influenced my relationships.

It's funny how the relationships you fall into impact you the most.

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The Importance of Great Sex | How sex is beneficial for your physical, mental, and relationship health

Let's be honest here; great sex is a real game-changer. It feels good, fun and brings you closer to your partner. But did you know that amazing sex is also important for your health and happiness? That's right, it's not just about getting your rocks off. Sex comes with many unbelievable benefits, such as reducing your risk of stroke or heart disease, helping reduce the symptoms of depression, improving communication between you and your partner, and so on.

So grab a snack and a drink, sit back, and let me teach you the health benefits of sex.

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How to fix a lack of communication in a relationship | A relationship coach’s step-by-step guide

Communication is critical to the health of any relationship. Often, communication starts off as idyllic and healthy. Over time, it can break down and become strained; that's why you're here, right? If you and your partner are struggling with a lack of communication, you both must take steps to address the issue at hand. What is your overall goal? Improving your communication skills one day at a time. I will take you on a journey to fix the lack of communication in a relationship in this easy-to-understand guide.

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Dating Duds? Set dating goals to cut the crap! | A step-by-step dating goal guide

Dating can be an exciting and nerve-wracking experience, especially if you need clarification about what you want. The prospect of setting dating goals may seem odd or even aggressive. But it's how you get clarity before you sink your teeth into the dating game (likely not for the first time.) It's also essential that you know what your dating goals are so you can communicate them clearly to a potential partner. That ensures you're both on the same page and have no unspoken expectations. In this article, I will walk you through identifying your dating goals so you can finally get started with intention and clarity.

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Dating Someone With Depression | How you can support yourself and your partner

Mental health awareness is growing every day.

Depression is discussed in nearly every mental health forum, but if you're dating someone with depression, you may feel lost on how to help them.

The fact that you're doing research on this topic shows not only that you care but that you're likely a walking green flag of a partner. Dating someone with depression may seem daunting if you don't have it yourself. However, understanding just a little bit can put you miles ahead.

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Why You Aren’t Reaching Your Goals | How to build self-trust

We're well into another year, and the time for resolutions has come and gone. You've disappointed yourself again and fallen far from where you wanted to be. That's a normal part of the process of reaching your goals, but should it be? There is a reason why you never follow through on your resolutions. There's a reason why you keep disappointing yourself. There's a reason why you feel stuck and lost. You need to include the secret ingredient of reaching your goals, self-trust.

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How to Get Space in Your Relationship: Differentiation of self - what it is, why you need it, and how to get it

Relationships can be amazing things. Your partner can be supportive, fun, and your best friend. But on the other end of the spectrum, what happens when you get too close? What happens when you become a singular item and can't get any space for yourself? Resentment builds. Being too close to your partner can actually be a bad thing. I know it sounds counterintuitive, but hear me out. Relationships aren't two halves coming together. They're two whole individuals choosing to be together. They're meant to be complementary, not complete you. You're complete on your own.

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What is a Self-care Menu? Why you need one and how it can help you avoid depressive episodes

The self-care menu is something that I came up with myself to help me cope with depressive episodes.

That's right, even a coach can have depressive episodes.

But the menu is one of the many coping mechanisms which help me get through dark and challenging times.

Just what a self-care menu is, you'll have to keep reading to find out.

By the end of this article, you'll have yet another healthy coping mechanism in your pocket. These self-care menus can help you get through the challenging parts of life easily.

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Habits of Successful Relationships - How to make your relationship healthier and happier

You're here because you want to have a successful long-term relationship. And we congratulate you on identifying that desire! But how will you be able to determine if you're in a healthy relationship? In order to find the love of your life, you need to start developing successful relationship habits. Knowing these success habits, you can practice them on your own and when you enter into an intimate relationship.

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7 Signs Someone is Emotionally Unavailable - What it means, how to spot it, and how to choose better men

Have you ever gotten into a situationship by accident? The man you went out with in the first place said he was looking for a relationship, but then he back-pedaled? He seems to want all the benefits of having a girlfriend but isn't willing to commit. These actions define emotional unavailability.

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How Your Attachment Style is Impacting Your Relationships - What attachments styles are and how to find yours

Have you ever been called "clingy"? Or "emotionally absent"? You behave these ways because your attachment style in relationships molds how you act. There are four different attachment styles, three of which are insecure, one is secure. The good news is that you can change your attachment style.

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