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As a sex, dating, and relationship coach, I understand that some people learn best by reading. That’s why I’m constantly writing new blog posts about sex, dating, and relationships so everyone can access this information. I’m writing here to help you and to start a conversation.

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The Importance of Great Sex | How sex is beneficial for your physical, mental, and relationship health

Let's be honest here; great sex is a real game-changer. It feels good, fun and brings you closer to your partner. But did you know that amazing sex is also important for your health and happiness? That's right, it's not just about getting your rocks off. Sex comes with many unbelievable benefits, such as reducing your risk of stroke or heart disease, helping reduce the symptoms of depression, improving communication between you and your partner, and so on.

So grab a snack and a drink, sit back, and let me teach you the health benefits of sex.

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How to Perform Cunnilingus | Cunnilingus tips, tricks, and techniques you need to know

Cunnilingus has gone from an unspoken pastime to the front page of every magazine. But most people struggle to understand how to give the best oral sex to a woman. The female gentiles have long been regarded as a mysterious zone without a surefire way to pleasure it. It is personal to each vulva owner. If you’re wondering how to perform cunnilingus, I’ll tell you all of the areas you need to learn how to tempt with your tongue.

Female oral pleasure shouldn't be a mystery. It should be part and parcel of every sexual encounter and experience.

Why?

Let me tell you why.

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Sexless Relationship or Different Desire Types? | The three types of sexual desire and what you need to know

Arousal should happen spontaneously and impulsively, right? Wrong. Most people get "sex education" from pornography. We've learned that you should be drop-dead wet as soon as the sexy pizza delivery guy shows up. You should be down to get down. Well, this isn't the case for most of the world. In Emily Nagoski's landmark book, Come as You Are, spontaneous arousal is the exception rather than the rule. There are several types of arousal that you need to consider before you start worrying about your libido.

This won't be the definitive guide to discovering your one arousal type. But instead, give you permission to be curious about which type you feel like each day.

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Why You Need to Buy a Penis Ring: What they are and how they help your sex life

Erections are temperamental, to say the least. There are two common complaints among penis owners (hereafter called "men" in this article for brevity.) The first is that they ejaculate too early for their liking. The second most common complaint is that you either can't get or stay hard. Enter the penis ring, also known as a cock ring. These simple, affordable, and reusable devices can help remedy many men's issues with their penis.

I get a lot of questions about penis or cock rings, so today, I" m here to answer your most asked questions.

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What Does a Dating Coach do? Why you need a dating coach in 2023

Dating coaching is a new advent in finding "the one." Since the pioneers of the matching-making field first arose on social media, the niche has become filled with wannabes and credentialless people trying to help. But one facet of dating coaching many miss. It's the one that sets working with me apart from the noise. It's the you factor. Learning the rules and mechanics of how to look and sound right is essential. However, until you know who you are, you'll keep settling for the wrong person repeatedly. That's what a dating coach does. We help you clarify who you are and solidify who you're looking for. That way, you can go out into the dating world with confidence and a discerning eye.

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Beginner's Guide to Sex Toys for Men: Your ultimate buying guide

The number of female sex toys on the market is overwhelming. Aren't men supposed to have a higher sex drive? You wouldn't be able to tell from looking at the shelves of most sex toy stores. When you finally find the small section dedicated to male pleasure, you may not know what you're looking at. That's okay! That's why I've put together this beginner's guide to sex toys for men. After reading this, you'll be confident walking into adult shops worldwide.

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Want More Sex in Your Relationship? - My secret tool for bringing back the sex

I've written a lot about how important it is to keep dating your partner. But, I still need to give you my fundamental secret tool, how you can work together to plan a date. Using the 5 love languages to plan date nights is a great way to be thoughtful without putting in too much thought.

These are specific love-language-speaking-intimacy-building-memorable-date-night plans. And yes, it does require a little planning and effort up top. But if you do it properly, you should have years of date nights planned ahead.

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At Home Erection Remedies: How to fix your erection issues without medication

Erections are temperamental. That shouldn't come as a surprise to anyone. Therefore, erection problems are plentiful and often greeted with inappropriate and rude responses. It's one of the most common sexual issues that men face. But should you take a pill to ensure you have a strong erection on demand? In my professional opinion, absolutely not. Plenty of at-home remedies for erection issues can work wonders for you.

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Are You Sabotaging Your Relationship? How unspoken needs and expectations can ruin everything

Dating and communication go hand-in-hand. That should go without saying. But, so few were genuinely taught how to communicate in healthy ways. You're in the right place if you think your dating life and communication style aren't working out. As it turns out, you can easily sabotage your intimate relationships by not openly expressing your needs.

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You’re Probably Ruining Your Sex Life - 17 harmful myths about sex you probably still believe

Sex is amazing when you let it happen naturally and go with the flow. However, very few people can even do that because of the sexual scripts we've been taught our whole lives. Those problematic sexual expectations are carried into porn and even sex education in our schools. If you want to learn how to have the best sex of your life, you first need to unlearn everything you think you "know" about sex.

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BDSM for Beginners - What you need to know before you get started

You've heard all about it, but you're still not quite sure what BDSM is.

BDSM is a grossly misappropriated and misunderstood topic. It is often blown out of proportion or demonized by popular media.

BDSM groups and practices are based around mutual consent and different types of erotic experiences. They are a completely healthy expression of sexuality. Often, it doesn't involve penetrative sex.

It's all about the erotic exchange of power.

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